Lauren Graham has opened up about how writing became a crucial part of her healing process following her breakup with Peter Krause, her former co-star from “Parenthood.” The actress, known for her roles in “Gilmore Girls” and “Parenthood,” is releasing a new book of essays titled “Have I Told You This Already? Stories I Don’t Want to Forget to Remember.” In a recent interview, she shared insights into navigating life after her separation from Krause.
News of Lauren Graham And Peter Krause’s breakup was confirmed in June, revealing that the pair had “quietly” ended their relationship the previous year. They began dating after being cast as siblings, Adam and Sarah Braverman, in the popular NBC drama “Parenthood,” a series that ran for six seasons and showcased their on-screen chemistry. Their real-life romance blossomed, leading to almost 12 years together before they decided to part ways.
Addressing her emotional state after the split, Graham told People Magazine, “Somewhere in that is a year like this where I just was not going to let (the breakup) flatten me.” This statement highlights her resilient approach to overcoming personal challenges. She emphasized her focus on the positive aspects of her life and the good times shared, channeling her energy into writing her new book. “I was like, ‘Okay, well, look at all the good stuff I have, and look at all the good times,’ and ‘I’m going to write this book.’ Thank goodness I have these outlets and these stories to tell,” Graham explained, underscoring the therapeutic role of writing in her life. She also mentioned that her upbringing instilled in her a sense of resilience, teaching her to “take your knocks and don’t complain.”
Delving into the reasons behind the breakup with Peter Krause, Lauren Graham offered a thoughtful perspective. She acknowledged that the long history they shared, which began in their 40s, presented both advantages and disadvantages. “I think part of all the positives of having known each other for a really long time were there. And one of the negatives of that is we almost came into a relationship as people in their 40s without asking any of the questions people in their 40s should be asking,” Graham admitted. She elaborated that their initial connection was so strong and enjoyable that they might have overlooked crucial foundational questions about long-term compatibility. “We had such a good time together that I didn’t maybe ask some fundamental questions about ‘What are your values and what do you envision?’ and those more grown-up things. And then they just caught up with us,” she stated, indicating a natural evolution of needs and priorities over time.
Despite the end of their romantic relationship more than a year prior, Lauren Graham revealed that she still feels a sense of connection to Peter Krause and his son, Roman, from a previous relationship. “Any pain still really has its moments,” Graham confessed, showing the lingering emotional impact of the separation. “I was a contributor in the life of his child, and so we’re connected. And yes, I’m in a better place, but it’s still just a shame. It’s just sad to me,” she expressed, highlighting the complex emotions involved in disentangling lives after a significant shared history.
Throughout their relationship, Lauren Graham and Peter Krause maintained a relatively private public profile, though they occasionally shared glimpses into their deep connection in interviews. In 2016, Graham described to Good Housekeeping their initial spark, saying they “couldn’t stop talking” when they first got together. She fondly recalled their conversations being about “the world and books and family,” rather than just themselves, indicating a meeting of minds and shared interests. Graham also appreciated the straightforward nature of their early relationship, noting that they openly communicated their feelings for each other without games or pretense.
A lighter moment from their time together that Graham recounted was during the COVID-19 pandemic quarantine. In an appearance on “The Ellen DeGeneres Show” last year, she shared an amusing anecdote about Krause’s attempt to lighten the mood. “Peter started a thing, I guess just to make COVID life fun, where he’d go to the store and stock up on ridiculous amounts of whatever and leave it in the corner of the living room and then he’d call it ‘COVID corner,’” Graham laughed, recalling Krause’s quirky humor. She explained his playful approach to dealing with the pandemic restrictions, “As if that somehow made these piles of stuff fun, or like a place to visit, or like a place to show the guests, even though nobody’s coming over. But he’d be like, ‘Hey guys, have you seen COVID corner?’”
The pandemic also brought a period of separation for the couple as Graham had to film “The Mighty Ducks: Game Changers” in Vancouver for almost five months. While she acknowledged this time apart allowed Krause and his son to strengthen their bond, she also noted it was the longest period they had ever spent physically separated.
Lauren Graham’s journey of reflection and healing is further explored in her new book, “Have I Told You This Already? Stories I Don’t Want to Forget to Remember,” which offers fans a deeper look into her life and career. The book is available from November 15th, providing further insights into Graham’s experiences and perspectives.
